Psychologist Carl Jung says: “What you resist not only persists but will grow in size.”
How does this relate back to toxic positivity and what does this mean? In an article on Psychology Today by Gustavo Razzetti, explains how the pressure to maintain a positive attitude even during times of hardships can do more harm than good. By not acknowledging tough times it can actually invalidate your emotions and somewhat censor them. This can impact your motivation to reach out for support and help. Think back to our friend Carl Jung here… will the emotions persist and grow in size?
However, cognitive reappraisal can be the antidote we are looking for when it comes to toxic positivity. By tweaking and changing the way you think about the true and unfiltered emotions you experience, you can focus on the emotion head on and act accordingly.
Next time you start saying, “Think positive,” to yourself or a loved one, try reframing your sentence to “The way you are feeling is valid and how can I help.” Imagine the response you will get!
Side note: there is nothing wrong with being positive! Embrace all the emotions that occur in daily life, the positive and negative.
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